From ‘mate’ to manager, the hardest transition of all

Let’s be honest – the hardest leadership jump isn’t taking on a new team. It’s leading the one you used to be a part of. Moving from team-mate to team-leader sounds simple — you already know the people, the work, and how things get done. But in reality, it’s one of the hardest leadership transitions you’ll ever make.

Doing to Leading: The biggest shift is moving from ‘doing’ to ‘leading’. What you were good at before isn’t what is needed in a leadership role. You now need to set your team up for success before you concentrate on your own day. Before, you measured your success by your own results. Now, your success is in helping others perform at their best. That means stepping back from the “doing” and focusing on the “leading.”

Identity. Yesterday you were part of the crew — sharing the banter - today, you’re the one making decisions, setting priorities, and holding people accountable. That’s a big change for you, and an even bigger change for them.

Relationships: Friendships and past dynamics can make it awkward. What once felt natural can now look like favouritism. Some new managers swing too far — becoming overly strict to prove they’re fair — while others avoid tough calls to keep the peace. Both approaches can backfire.

Expectations: Be clear with expectations – what are you expecting of your team-mates, and ask for feedback. What do they expect, or need, from you in this role?
The sweet spot? Be clear, fair, and consistent, while staying approachable and human. Your team needs to see that you’re still you, but you’ve got their back – even when the decisions are tough.

Yes, it’s hard. But it’s also one of the most rewarding leadership steps you’ll take.

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