Redefining The Day Of Love

For the first time in four years, I’ll be spending Valentine’s Day alone. Singles like myself tend to feel like Valentine’s Day means you’re left out of the celebration. Not to discredit the day at all because when you're a couple, it's such a lovely time to show each other a bit of extra love.

After so long in relationships and only now feeling like I’m starting to own my single life, I’ve decided to redefine the day of love for myself this year. I’m not without love or unlovable and I don’t need a partner to give me validation that I am either. This year I’m taking myself out to my favourite restaurant, buying myself flowers and chocolate.

I hope that you can also treat yourself no matter your personal situation, relationship or not. Countless times in the past I have sat around chatting with girlfriends (and guy friends too!) in the lead up to Valentine’s Day, feeling inadequate or lonely, but it simply takes a change of mindframe and a small step of confidence to practice the self-love that is preached so much in our current society.

You also don’t have to go it alone either. Gather a mate or a group of friends and go out together to have a nice meal, watch a movie, or do an activity you love. I truly believe that our friends and family are the people that guide us through life and if and when we find a partner, they’re meant to compliment the life we already have. On days like this coming Valentine’s Day, give yourself what you deserve with the ones you love and when the time is right, you’ll have someone to share that with you.

"Maybe we can be each other’s soul mates. And then we can let men be just these great, nice guys to have fun with." – Charlotte, Sex and the City to her three best girlfriends; Carrie, Miranda and Samantha.

Kaley

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