Top Tips For Effective Parenting

Catch your kids being good

It’s very easy to give attention to your children when they’re behaving badly, in fact it’s impossible not to! It is important, however, that you find ways to give them attention when they are behaving well too.

If you only focus and put energy into them when their behaviour is bad, they learn to crave and demand attention that way. Equally if you are constantly telling them what not to do, this will breed a negative dynamic between you. Stop and notice them when they are not looking for attention and compliment them on something good they are doing. A hug or kind words works best.

Make communication a priority

Explain everything in a clear, concise and age-appropriate way for your children. This shows respect and also makes them feel included. Offering explanation builds confidence and a deeper understanding. By knowing more about what you are asking them to do, they are more likely to comply.

Make your expectations clear, if there is a problem then express how you feel and enforce consequences. Make suggestions and offer choices to your child, invite them to negotiate, participation will motivate them to interact with you.

Be fair, firm and consistent

Children respond well to boundaries – when used properly rules will make them feel safe and loved. Be clear with your expectations and your limits. Of course, children will test those limits, but they will learn how to be responsible adults by learning how systems work.

Establish house rules and be consistent. If they do not comply, then give one warning that details the ‘consequence’ and then enforce. A common mistake is not following through with a punishment, make sure you only lay on the line what you are willing to give.

Source: Kids Health

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